Friday, July 25, 2008

God is good....

Several of you have wanted to know how yesterday's court custody event went. I had worked nights at the hospital and had a most wonderful shift! I was texting my husband a support prayer on the way home as he was going to leave before I got there. I also texted him that I was praising God no matter what happens. He and his daughter also prayed this before they left.

When they got to court the judge felt he had too many cases and handed their case over to a new judge who had not been involved in the two pre-trial hearings they had gone through. In the pre-trial hearings the judge had been very supportive of our case and was leaning towards my husband. Our lawyer nearly panic but Joe said he stated" It will work out"...we were determine to walk in faith. We had His peace.

Long story short, we were blessed. The opposing attorney told the judge that if child support was going to change then they planned to fight for custody of the Kelsey even though she wants to live with us. The judge, thank God, read the underline message and he did not even talked to Joe's daughter...Joe received full custody. Child support is now where it should be based on incomes and the only thing we struggle with is the amount of college expense we are required to pay-though it seems high, we know that God will provide.

So we are praising God. He has provided again and again and again. Divorce is such a hard thing, especially for the kids. Joe and I try so hard to be fair, to not talk down of the other parent (even if they ave done something wrong), and to encourage relationships with the other parent (even if there is concerns). Children should not have to choose a parent to love but that isn't always the case in divorced homes-as in the home Kelsey is coming from. We can do things with my daughters father, sit together at school events...we do it for the children. I don't think that will ever happen in Joe's situation but pray about it.

Especially pray for Kelsey, Joe's daughter. She stated with tears that her mother fought for the money, not for her and she is heart broken. She doesn't want to be with her mother but we will continue encourage her to have a relationship with her mother. Tomorrow Kelsey turns 16. She has been through a lot so we are plotting a pretty big surprise. Pray for us that as parents we will build her back up emotionally, that we will support and love her in the way she needs and that we will help to draw her closer to the God we so love. She is so beautiful inside and out and she deserves better than what she has had to endure. We want to give emotionally and spiritually to her, to all of our girls, above and beyond their needs. Our home environment is a little tougher then what she is use to so there will be adjustments. She has done pretty well during the last 6 months of temporary custody.

Joe's oldest goes off to college. She has chosen not to have a relationship with her father since the divorce which has hurt him dearly. We know in God's timing that will change. His youngest wants to live with her mom because of the "freedom" she has. We have an open door policy in our house so she is over here all the time. The girls can go to the other parents house any time they choose provided supervision and the environment is right. Our house is full. We are blessed. God has worked in and through this blended family and we know He will continue to do so.

Thank you for your prayers. We were protected yesterday because of it.

In Him~Pamela (MrsJoeB)


Yolanda said...


Thank You Lord Jesus.

Mari said...

I'm just going to buy stock in Kleenex. Then maybe I can make some of my money back :) I am in tears. I've been praying for God to show Himself strong for you and He did. Oh how I praise Him. Thank you Thank You Father. You are more than able.

Good luck with the surprise. You guys are such good parents. Never doubt that.

In Christ,

tiggerdaisy said...

Thank you, Father, for the many blessings you have bestowed upon this family. Keep them in the coming days as you continually unfold Your plan for their lives. Thank You, Jesus!

Prayers and blessings,

Amy said...

Thank you for sharing that Pamela.
God is good.
I have a 16 and 13 year old, and I know it can be challenging raising them in any circumstance.
I will continue to pray for your family.
And I pray that Kelsey would feel and know how special she is to all of you and especially to God as she celebrates her 16th birthday!

God Bless,

Paula (SweetPea) said...

Thanks for the update. I had been praying for you and the situation.
Praise the Lord.

Sweet 16 and I know it will be because she had two great parents loving her and showering her with love and a surprise party! yay

elaine @ peace for the journey said...

Oh Pam...

What a blessed chaos! Thank God for his grace that covereth it all. He's done so in my situation, and he will make a way in the wilderness that levels and walks even.

I love your heart and your wisdom. You are a good woman, and one day...

they will rise up and called you blessed.


Kristen Schiffman said...

Strange as it may seem, although with Christ is anything really strange? I've been thinking about Kelsey for a little while today...and just wondering how she is.

Still praying. On her behalf and you and your husband's.